The Balancing Act

The key to living harmoniously is balance. I’m sure you’ve heard the proverb, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy,” as it’s stood the test of time. Less known, perhaps, is its counterpart, “All play, and no work makes Jack a mere toy.” In other words, we need to maintain an equilibrium between the different aspects of our life. But for many of us, that’s easier said than done!

I have a notoriously sweet tooth. Sometimes, the one thing that keeps me from overindulging is my mother’s voice, repeating like a broken record, “do everything in moderation, Kalyani!” Whether I’m limiting screen time or junk food with my children, I often spout the same sentiment, if not the same words, having recognized the wisdom of it. My youngest always laughs in amazement when I tell him that you can go overboard with healthy food as well, like eating too many carrots and turning orange!

So how does one go about leading a balanced lifestyle? The best place to start is by making a list! Prioritizing can prove challenging. If everything is laid out right in front of you, it’s easier to see how the different pieces of a puzzle fit. Write down what you value and determine if you’re giving enough attention to it.

Since our existence relies on health, I’d say that’s critical, if not THE most important! Yet, it’s often the one people most neglect. Why? Often, it’s because we’re burning the midnight oil, taking care of everyone else, or behaving self-destructively. Our mental health inevitably suffers when we neglect our physical health, whether through a lack of proper nutrition, exercise, or sleep. It can go in reverse, too, making it a vicious cycle. Whether it’s your mind or your body, the other will thrive if you take care of one.

Living optimally has to do with fulfillment and satisfaction, not perfection. Look at your list and set goals that align what you desire with how you live your life. What are your physical, mental, and emotional needs? Only when you incorporate those into what you’re required to do and want to do will you have actual control and ownership of your life.

Part of the balancing act is also learning to compromise. If you have a family, then you and your partner must prioritize so that responsibilities are symmetric. Otherwise, an unequal relationship becomes a breeding ground for resentment. Finally, finding enough time to achieve your goals often means simplifying your life. It’s impossible to devote yourself fully to anything if you have too much on your plate. If you want your family to spend more time together, try cutting out two hours of everyone’s screen time.

We’re all tightrope walkers in life. When you find your balance, the steadiness within will keep you upright.